Becoming Orgasmic

<BR><B><I>Contents</I></B><BR><BR><I>Acknowledgments<BR><BR>Introduction<BR><BR>1 Getting Involved</I><BR><BR>Who can benefit from this book?<BR><BR>Fears and hopes you might have.<BR><BR>You are not alone.<BR><BR>If you have a partner, how to decide what to do during your sexual growth.<BR><BR>Ways to feel encouraged as you progress through the chapters.<BR><BR><I>2 Getting to Know Yourself</I><BR><BR>The influence of early experiences on your attitudes toward sex.<BR><BR>Your personal sex history and putting it in perspective.<BR> Abusive incidents that may have taken place.<BR><BR>Dealing with concerns about your body.<BR><BR>Where you get standards for appreciating yourself physically.<BR><BR>Visual exploration of your genitals.<BR><BR>Coming to terms with negative feelings and fostering positive feelings about your genitals.<BR><BR>Myths and misconceptions about women's sexuality.<BR><BR><I>3 Exploration Through Touch</I><BR><BR>Exploring the textures of your entire body.<BR><BR>Dealing with uncomfortable feelings.<BR><BR>Relaxation exercises.<BR><BR>The G-spot and you.<BR><BR>Strengthening your vaginal muscles.<BR><BR><I>4 Touching for Pleasure: Discovery</I><BR><BR>Claiming your body as your own.<BR><BR>A new way to look at masturbation.<BR><BR>What does giving yourself pleasure mean to you?<BR><BR>Exploring your body for feelings of pleasure.<BR><BR>Some ideas to try.<BR><BR>Cognitive therapy techniques.<BR><BR>Putting pressure on yourself, and the tendency to become a spectator.<BR><BR><I>5 Touching for Pleasure: Focusing</I><BR><BR>Continuing exploration through touch.<BR><BR>Difficulties you might experience.<BR><BR>Ways to focus and increase your arousal and pleasure, including body work and sensate focus.<BR><BR>Exploring erotic literature and fantasy, and concerns you may have about them.<BR><BR><I>6 Going Further</I><BR><BR>Problems you may be having.<BR><BR>Issues that influence change.<BR><BR>The importance of appreciating and valuing who you are.<BR><BR>Dealing with conflicted feelings about changing.<BR><BR>Women's physical responses during the sexual response cycle.<BR><BR>Influences on sexual response, including aging and contraception.<BR><BR>Fears about orgasm.<BR><BR>Role-play orgasm.<BR><BR>Ways to increase arousal and trigger orgasm.<BR><BR><I>7 Using a Vibrator: A Little Technology</I><BR><BR>Taking a new look at vibrators.<BR><BR>Different types of vibrators and how to find the right one for you.<BR><BR>Exploring your body.<BR><BR>Concerns about excessive use of or attachment to the vibrator.<BR><BR><I>8 Being Female, Being Sexual: Special Issues of the Body</I><BR><BR>The menstrual cycle as it begins and ends your reproductive years.<BR><BR>Problems with menstruation, including premenstrual syndrome and amenorrhea.<BR><BR>Sexual health and response throughout the life cycle.<BR><BR>Your body during and after pregnancy.<BR><BR>Ways to maintain gynecological health.<BR><BR>Breast exams and doctor visits -- some suggestions.<BR><BR><I>9 Sharing Self-Discoveries with Your Partner</I><BR><BR>Expectations and apprehensions about sharing your changes with your partner.<BR><BR>Ways of sharing self-pleasuring with your partner.<BR><BR>Sexual desire problems -- approaches to helping.<BR><BR>Concerns from the woman's point of view.<BR><BR>Concerns from the man's point of view.<BR><BR>Learning new aspects of initiating and refusing sex.<BR><BR><I>10 Pleasuring Each Other</I><BR><BR>The importance of trust and communication in pleasuring each other.<BR><BR>Ways to avoid putting pressure on yourself and your partner.<BR><BR>Using verbal and nonverbal communication during sexual interactions.<BR><BR>How to encourage and support each other.<BR><BR>Positions for pleasuring.<BR><BR>Enjoying nonintercourse forms of lovemaking.<BR><BR>Becoming less inhibited in front of your partner.<BR><BR>Dealing with negative feelings about male genitals.<BR><BR>Vibrators as part of lovemaking.<BR><BR>Using fantasies with a partner.<BR><BR><I>11 Intercourse: Another Form of Mutual Pleasure</I><BR><BR>Feelings about intercourse and other forms of sexual affection.<BR><BR>Seeing intercourse as part of, rather than the pinnacle of, sexual expression.<BR><BR>Appreciation as a key to encouraging change.<BR><BR>Genital-size concerns.<BR><BR>Advantages and disadvantages of different positions for intercourse.<BR><BR>Coital orgasm -- is it worth it?<BR><BR>New approaches to try if coital orgasm is important.<BR><BR><I>12 Sex in the Modern World: Real-Life Relationship Issues</I><BR><BR>Cultural pressures on women to be more than they are.<BR><BR>Cultural pressures on men to change.<BR><BR>How much have social expectations about sex and relationships changed?<BR><BR>Recovering from rape or incest.<BR><BR>Choosing a partner in an AIDS age.<BR><BR>Personal values, religion, and sexual relationships.<BR><BR>Update on sexual frequencies and changes in stable relationships.<BR><BR><I>13 Enhancement</I><BR><BR>Guidelines for enhancing your sexuality.<BR><BR>Techniques for oral-genital and anal lovemaking.<BR><BR>Aphrodisiacs.<BR><BR>Ways to delay ejaculation.<BR><BR><I>14 What Next?</I><BR><BR>Alternatives to consider if you are still dissatisfied.<BR><BR>Locating and choosing the best therapist for you.<BR><BR><I>Note to Professionals<BR><BR>A Selected Annotated Bibliography<BR><BR>Index</I>